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Homosexuality may refer to:
A sexual orientation characterized by aesthetic attraction, romantic love, and sexual desire exclusively or almost exclusively for members of the same sex or gender identity.
Sexual relations with another of the same sex or gender regardless of sexual orientation or self-identification.
A sexual identity or self-identification, which may or may not imply exclusively homosexual behavior or attraction.
Homosexuality is usually contrasted with heterosexuality and bisexuality. See sexual orientation
Anthropologists divide homosexuality into three major types: egalitarian, gender-structured, and age-structured, of which one would generally be privileged over the others in a given society at a given time. See Forms below.


As there are different biological, historical and psycho-social components to sex and gender, no single label or description will fit all individuals. See discussions on sex and gender at sex and Homosexuality and transgender.


Etymology
Main article: Terminology of homosexuality
The word homosexual translates literally as "of the same sex," being a hybrid of the Greek prefix homo- meaning "same" and the Latin root sex- meaning "sex." The first known appearance of the term homosexual in print is found in an anonymously published 1869 German pamphlet written by the Hungarian Karl-Maria Kertbeny.


Usage and related terms
See Terminology of homosexuality for main article.
The term homosexual can be used as a noun or adjective to describe persons as well as their sexual orientation, sexual history, or self-identification. However, since homosexual places emphasis on sexuality, it is to be avoided when not describing such. Some people also feel the term is too clinical and thus somewhat dehumanising. Thus, when referring to a person (as opposed to a sexual behavior), gay man or lesbian are generally preferred. (Some same-sex oriented persons actually prefer the term homosexual to gay, seeing the former as describing a sexual orientation and the latter as describing a cultural or socio-political group with which they do not identify 1.)


The term gay may refer to all homosexual people, or only to homosexual men, which is why gay man may be preferred. Lesbian refers to homosexual women.


Although some early writers used the adjective homosexual to refer to any single-gender context (such as an all-girls' school), today the term implies a sexual aspect. The term homosocial is now used to describe single-sex contexts that are not specifically sexual.


Derogatory terms include fag or faggot, which generally refer to gay men; poofter, and mincer used mostly in the United Kingdom; queer, generally inclusive of anyone who is not exclusively heterosexual, but also reclaimed as affirming by many gays and academics; Gay and homo, common terms of abuse among adolescents; and dyke, which refers to lesbians. See Homophobia


Given how confusing and overloaded various terms can be, when specificity is important, new terms are starting to be pressed into service. For example, Men who have sex with men, or MSM for short, is sometimes used in the medical community when specifically discussing sexual behavior (regardless of sexual orientation or self-identification). Non-straight is another attempt at neutrality that is gaining currency.


Anthropology
Forms
A number of researchers into the social construction of same-sex love and sexuality have suggested that the concept of homosexuality would best be rendered as "homosexualities." They point out that same-sex relations have been and continue to be constructed in widely disparate ways by different societies. These variations are grouped by anthropologist Stephen O. Murray into three different categories:



Egalitarian, exemplified by modern forms of relationship between partners of similar age and gender. See Sexual minority cultures
Gender structured, exemplified by traditional relations between men in the Mediterranean basin, the Middle East and Central and South Asia, as well as shamanic gender-changing practices seen in native societies. See Homosexuality and Islam, Two-Spirit and Hijra
Age structured, exemplified by the erotic apprenticeship engaged in by novice samurai with the more experienced warriors, southern Chinese boy-marriage rites and Classical Greek practices See Shudo, Homosexuality in China, and Pederasty
Though in any society one particular form of homosexuality usually predominates, other forms are likely to co-exist. As historian Rictor Norton points out in his style="font-style : italic;">Intergenerati onal and Egalitarian Models, in Ancient Greece egalitarian relationships co-existed (though to some extent "in the closet") with the institution of pederasty; and a fascination with adolescent youths continues to be a part of modern queer culture, just as a fascination with adolescent girls continues to concentrate the minds of straight men.


Incidence
Main article: Demographics of sexual orientation.
Estimates of the modern prevalence of homosexuality vary considerably. They are complicated by differing or even ambiguous definitions of homosexuality, and by fluctuations over time and according to location.


Recent estimates in Western countries, where egalitarian relationships predominate, range from 1% to 10%, confined to a self-identified subculture. See Sexual minority cultures


In North Africa, the Middle East and Central Asia, where gender- and age-structured relationships are the rule, male homosexual practices are reported to be widespread, engaged in by individuals most of whom do not regard themselves as homosexual. See Homosexuality and Islam


Historically, in areas where same-sex relationships were integrated in the culture, such as Ancient Greece, parts of Melanesia, Renaissance Florence, and pre-modern Japan, homosexual relationships were engaged in by a majority of the male population. See Pederasty


See Anthropological classification of homosexuality.


Biology
Bisexual continuum
Main articles: Sexual Behavior in the Human Male & Sexual Behavior in the Human Female.
Many studies, most notably the Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (1948) and the Sexual Behavior in the Human Female (1953) by Alfred Kinsey have found that the majority of humans have had homosexual experiences or sensations and are bisexual. Only a minority of people were found (5–10%) to be exclusively heterosexual or homosexual. Conversely, an even smaller minority of people appear to have had equal sexual experiences with both genders indicating an attraction scale or continuum. Other studies have suggested these reports exaggerated the occurrence of bisexuality and homosexuality in human populations. However, his idea of a sexuality continuum still enjoys wide acceptance today and is supported by findings in the human and animal kingdoms as well as biological studies of structural brain differences between those belonging to different sexual orientations. Many argue that the discrepancies between public and private admissions regarding sexual orientation are due to negative societal attitudes regarding same-sex intercourse.


Genetics vs. hormones
Scientific research is ongoing into various hypotheses about what factors give rise to homosexual orientation or behavior. These include pre-natal hormonal factors and genetics. For social factors of choice see malleability below.


Malleability


Main articles: Causes of sexual orientation & Homosexuality & Medical Science
Considerable debate continues over what determines a person's sexual orientation with regard to genetic vs. hormonal factors. A much smaller dialogue remains on whether that orientation is discretionary. Accordingly to the widely accepted views of Kinsey's sexual continuum most agree that only minorities of humans are "truly" homosexual or heterosexual and that the majority are bisexual. The presently held mainstream view is that regardless of your specific sexual orientation it cannot be changed and those who have had "success" are more appropriately bisexual.


"Permanent"
The great majority of workers in medicine and the sciences, as well as LGB organizations, claim that sexual orientation is innate, fixed and unchangeable, and that it is impossible to change homosexuality into heterosexuality, or vice-versa. They hold that the innate factors that in the majority of cases direct male sexual arousal to females (and vice-versa), in the case of the LGB minority direct arousal toward those of the same gender.


To support this argument, they point to the many reports of both straight and LGB-identified individuals who claim having discovered their orientation at an early age (often in pre-adolescence). In the case of queer youth, many report initial distress in response to this realization. Their claims are consistent with statistics showing that LGB-identified youth are several times more likely than non-gay youth to attempt suicide.


Some scientific studies suggest gay men's anatomical brain structure is similar to that of heterosexual women and different from their heterosexual male counterparts. Other studies such as the March 2000 Breedlove finger length report http://www.dcn.davis.ca.us/" title="http://www.dcn.davis.ca.us/" target="_blank"http://www.dcn.davis.ca.us/~mos/stats2000/results/fi ngerlengthrap.html and the July 2000 University of Texas study of neurological auditory response http://www.utexas.edu/opa/news/00newsreleas es/nr_200007/nr_brain0007 12.html" title="http://www.utexas.edu/opa/news/00newsreleas es/nr_200007/nr_brain0007 12.html" target="_blank"http://www.utexas.edu/opa/new... suggest that while lesbians show characteristics intermediate between heterosexual men and women, gay men are "hyper-masculinized". Some researchers have found that if one of a set of identical twins self-identifies as a gay man or lesbian, the chance of the other identifying as gay is increased to 50%, although other researchers' twin studies have found widely differing percentages.


Attempts to modify sexual orientation (known as "conversion therapies" and so far targeted only at LGB-identified individuals) have been condemned by numerous professional organizations in the scientific field for causing depression (sometimes leading to suicide) and being of little value. In 2001 Dr. Robert Spitzer, professor of psychiatry at Columbia University announced a study indicating that "reparative" therapy has a failure rate on the order of 99.98%. Indeed, the largest "reparative" therapy organization, a ministry called Exodus International, was started by two formerly homosexual men who several years later ended up leaving the ministry, denouncing it, and living as a homosexual couple themselves. The American Psychological Association in 1997 passed a resolution declaring therapists in these groups engaged in such conversion therapies to be following unethical and unhealthy practices.


The American Academy of Pediatrics, American Counseling Association, American Association of School Administrators, American Federation of Teachers, American Psychological Association, American School Health Association, Interfaith Alliance Foundation, National Association of School Psychologists, National Association of Social Workers, and National Education Association developed and endorsed the following statement in 1999:


"The most important fact about 'reparative therapy,' also sometimes known as 'conversion therapy,' is that it is based on an understanding of homosexuality that has been rejected by all the major health and mental health professions. organizations, together representing more than 477,000 health and mental health professionals, have all taken the position that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and thus there is no need for a 'cure.' ...health and mental health professional organizations do not support efforts to change young people's sexual orientation through 'reparative therapy' and have raised serious concerns about its potential to do harm."
"Changeable"
Various psychologists, anthropologists and sociologists including Sigmund Freud, Margaret Mead, and Michael Foucault have held that neither exclusive heterosexuality nor exclusive homosexuality are innate and only exist due to the effects of outside societal or developmental influences on the individual. In the same vein, writer Gore Vidal once remarked that "there is no such thing as a homosexual or heterosexual person. There are only homo- or heterosexual acts. Most people are a mixture of impulses if not practices, and what anyone does with a willing partner is of no social or cosmic significance". The lesbian-feminist movement has historically held the position that sexual orientation is socially and psychologically created and openly encouraged women to choose lesbianism over "compulsory heterosexuality" (as Adrienne Rich called it in her 1980 essay "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence") for the sake of women's liberation.


Conservative religious congregations maintain that being gay is a self-indulgent transgressive choice, like being a fast driver, and state it is learned behavior. Thus it is their position that all homosexuality is of a preferential nature. Some of the organizations that believe homosexuality is a choice and a violation of their religious creeds offer "conversion therapies" for lesbians and gay men in an attempt to change their sexual orientation. Some groups, most notably the Roman Catholic Church, take an ambiguous position on whether homosexual orientation is a free choice, explaining that the psychological basis behind it is not well understood. It is viewed as a "cross that must be borne", and homosexual individuals are expected to practice chastity. http://www.vatican.va/archive/catechism/p3s2 c2a6.htm" title="http://www.vatican.va/archive/catechism/p3s2 c2a6.htm" target="_blank"http://www.vatican.va/archive...


Utilizing a secular approach, the American National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality, and some non-Western organizations, also maintain that "conversion therapy" can change sexual orientation. They claim that sexual orientation is not genetic, that it is changeable, and to regard sexual orientation as permanent is incorrect. The implications of this view on the construction of heterosexuality have not been fully explored.


Apart from the issue of the changeability of one's basic orientation, the manifestation of one's sexual orientation seems to be liable to a great amount of variability. Thus it is common for homosexual individuals in hetero-normative societies to love, marry, and have children with individuals of the opposite sex, a practice done for social reasons in intolerant environments, as a cover for one's orientation (such relationships are known as "beards.") The opposite situation seems to obtain in homo-normative societies, where men whose primary attraction may be to the opposite sex nonetheless engage in—and enjoy—the homosexual practices prescribed by their respective culture. Both of these adaptations are forms of situational sexual behavior.


Homosexuality in animals
Main article: Homosexuality in animals
Homosexuality among animals may refer only to an apparent sexual behavior within the same sex, since the other two meanings are stated in terms of human traits. Homosexual behavior is common in the Animal Kingdom, especially in species closer to humans on the evolutionary scale, such as the great apes. Some believe that this behavior has its origin in male social organization and social dominance. However others reject that theory citing homosexuality in species that mate for life and female homosexuality.


Male penguin couples have been documented to mate for life, build nests together, and use a stone to replace sitting on an egg in the nest. In 2004, the Central Park Zoo in the United States replaced one male couple's stone with a fertile egg which the couple then raised as their own offspring http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2004/02/07/MNG 3N4RAV41.DTL" title="http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2004/02/07/MNG 3N4RAV41.DTL" target="_blank"http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin.... A German zoo has also reported homosexuality among its penguins. This has also been reported at Kelly Tarlton's Aquarium in Auckland, New Zealand. http://www.chorley-pct.nhs.uk/documents/projoscaug04 news.pdf" title="http://www.chorley-pct.nhs.uk/documents/projoscaug04 news.pdf" target="_blank"http://www.chorley-pct.nhs.uk...


Courtship, mounting, and full anal penetration between bulls is common among American bison. The Mandan nation Okipa festival concludes with a ceremonial enactment of this behavior, to "ensure the return of the buffalo in the coming seasonhttp://www.wholeearthmag.com/..." Also, mounting is common among cows.


Homosexuality in male sheep (found in 6–10% of rams) is associated with variations in cerebral mass distribution and chemical activity. A study reported in endocrinology concluded that biological factors are in play; this study replicated similar findings in humans. It shows that approximately 10% of males are homosexual and that the brains of homosexual males are different. http://endo.endojournals.org/cgi/content/abstract/ 145/2/478" title="http://endo.endojournals.org/cgi/content/abstract/ 145/2/478" target="_blank"http://endo.endojournals.org/....
Sociology
Societal attitudes towards same-sex relationships, reflected in the attitude of the state and the church, have varied over the centuries, from requiring all males to engage in relationships, to casual integration, through acceptance, to seeing the practice as a minor sin, repressing it through law enforcement and judicial mechanisms, to proscribing it under penalty of death. See Violence against gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and the transgendered


Modern law
Main articles: Homosexuality laws of the world & Same-sex Marriage
The relationship between the moral condemnation of the gay community and its legal status is complicated. For instance, in England buggery was a crime under medieval canon law because it was banned by the Church. However, prosecutions for this offence died out. Sexual activity between those of the same sex was formally banned by Parliament in the 19th century as one of a range of sexual offences, alongside sex with under-age girls, as part of an expression of a general moral outrage related to events of that time.


State-sponsored violence against gay men and lesbians occurs largely throughout those cultures under the sway of the Christian, Judaic and (to a lesser extent) Islamic religions. One recent egregious example of genocide by a genetically based (rather than religiously-based) doctrine, was the attempted extermination of gays during the Holocaust, where the Nazis viewed same-sex attraction as a sign of eugenic moral weakness rather than as a sin.


In pre-industrial western societies same-gender sex was generally accepted by the lower classes and the upper class, less so among the bourgeoisie, though most professed to consider it immoral. However, with the rise of urbanisation and the nuclear family, same-gender sex became less tolerated and even outlawed in some cases.


By the 19th Century most areas adopting the Code Napoleon (French-based civil law) had no specific ban on same-gender sex, while many areas with British-based Common Law systems had anti-sodomy statutes and executed gay men and lesbians as late as the end of the 1800's. Beginning in the 20th century, gay rights movements, as part of the broader civil rights movements, in concert with the development of the academic treatment of sexuality in queer studies, have led to changes in social acceptance and in the media portrayal of the gay community.


The legalization and legal equality of same-gender sex, together with legal status for same-sex marriage and non-gender-specific civil unions are major goals of the gay rights movement to protect families of gay couples.


In recent years a number of jurisdictions have relaxed or eliminated laws criminalizing same-sex sexual activity, including sodomy laws and laws preventing gay citizens from serving in their country's armed forces.


In Bulgaria gay sex between adults (over 18) was legalized in 1951, in Hungary and Czechoslovakia - in 1961. In England and Wales, gay sex was legalized in 1967, for consenting males aged over 21. Scotland followed in 1980, and Northern Ireland in 1982. The age of consent was lowered in 1994 from 21 to 18, and again in 2000 to 16 in mainland Britain and 17 in Northern Ireland. This last change gave it equal treatment with the heterosexual age of consent. However, not until 2003 were the earlier offences of buggery and gross indecency abolished so that gay sex was treated in the same way as heterosexual sex (previously it was illegal for gay sex to involve more than two people, or for anyone to watch).


The European Parliament of the European Union, which must approve applications for membership, stated in 1998 that it would not allow countries that violated the rights of lesbians and gay men to enter.


In the United States, on June 26, 2003 the landmark U.S. Supreme Court verdict Lawrence v. Texas overturned all remaining sodomy laws in the United States. The court exclaimed:



"A law branding one class of persons as criminal solely based on the State's moral disapproval of that class and the conduct associated with that class runs contrary to the values of the Constitution and the Equal Protection Clause, under any standard of review."
In China no specific law has targeted any form of gay behavior, but gay men are often convicted of being "rascals," which can lead to a jail sentence or to re-education.


In Japan, Taiwan, Indonesia, South Korea, Thailand and Kampuchea there are no laws against same-sex sexual activity.


Homosexual acts remain illegal in Singapore (see Homosexuality in Singapore and Singapore gay movement), Malaysia, Myanmar and the Indian subcontinent as a legacy of Victorian British influence in these countries.


Understudied phenomenon
Despite the emollience of attitudes towards homosexuality, and acceptance of it in some societies in psychology, it is considered an 'understudied relationship'. In his book, Understudied Relationships, social psychologist S.W. Duck found that most mainstream research is predisposed towards studying only heterosexuality, in terms of relationships in contemporary Western cultures, implicating that same-sex relationships are neglected and ignored by the majority of psychologists. More research since the 1990s has focused on homosexual relationships, rather than just traditional heterosexual relationships.


Political aspects
Scapegoating
Homosexuality has at times been used as a scapegoat by governments facing problems. Some examples would be Nazi Germany’s Holocaust of gay men based on the understanding that they were a threat to masculinity as well as contaminating the Aryan Race with a “gay” gene. Another is the burning of 6,000 books of homoerotic poetry of 8th c. Persian-Arab poet Abu Nuwas by the Egyptian Ministry of Culture in January 2001, to placate Islamic fundamentalists.
Modern Capitalism
Capitalism with its business structures having a great degree of autonomy from a government have often been at the forefront in treating gay men and women equally. The level of equal parity is much more common in business structures than governments. As of 2005 approximately 45% of companies within the Fortune 500 offered domestic partner benefits and nine of the top ten companies include sexual orientation in their non-discrimination policies.



Military
Main article: Homosexuality and the military
Homosexuality since ancient times has been documented to be more common in militaries with their strict sex-separation contrasted to society at large. Official attitudes towards this form of sexuality have varied, reflecting their culture’s views. Ancient Greece among others, as well as pre-modern Japan’s military traditions openly encouraged them as a form of male bonding. Many modern countries (such as the United Kingdom) welcome homosexuals in the armed services. Others, such as the United States purge them from the force in the belief that they are a threat. This negative attitude was common in the European Middle Ages when the Medieval Templars, a prominent Christian brotherhood of knights during the Crusades was destroyed on accusations of homosexuality.


The Scouts, a group of youth organizations, often emulate the attitude of their home country's military. Thus the Boy Scouts in the US reject gay members, while the Scout Association in the UK welcomes them both as members and as leaders.


Militaries have been known to use sexuality in abusive manners such as rape, frequently based on sexist variant of homophobia. Romans who viewed masculinity based on the penetrative sexual position regardless of the sex of the passive partner used it as a form of dominance, including a means to “conquer” an enemy. T. E. Lawrence, during World War I, claimed to have been raped in a homosexual context by his Ottoman captors.


Religion
Main article: Religion and homosexuality
Religion has played a significant role in forming a culture’s views towards homosexuality. Historically the negative perceptions have been limited to the Abrahamic religions. Groups not influenced by the Abrahamic religions have commonly regarded homosexuality as sacred or neutral. In the wake of colonialism and imperialism undertaken by countries of the Abrahamic faiths some non-Abrahamic religious groups have adopted new attitudes antagonistic towards homosexuality. For example, when India became part of the British Empire sodomy laws were introduced; while there was no basis for them in Hindu faith, this led to persecution of their society and religion. India still retains portions of these laws due to this past foreign influence as of 2005. This experience was also repeated by other Abrahamic religious nations upon their acquisitions throughout Africa, Asia and the Americas.


Atheists, Agnostics and Secularists
In societies where a majority religion is opposed to homosexuality, advocates for the rights of non-believers and gay-rights advocates become natural allies on certain political and cultural issues. However, being atheist, agnostic or secularist does not necessarily imply support for gay rights or approval of homosexuality. Various non-believers disapprove of homosexuality for various cultural, personal, and other non-religious reasons, and secular states, such as the countries of the Communist bloc, can at the same time be antagonistic to homosexuality.


Religious people who disagree with the condemnation of sodomy by their religious institution tend to leave their faith in greater numbers than those who agree with it (and thus are more likely to become non-believers, though many simply move to sects which approve of same-sex couples). But as with many religious issues, many dissidents, including lesbian and gay people themselves, maintain their religious affiliation and practice despite their disagreements.


Abrahamic
The world's three major Abrahamic religions, Christianity, Islam, and Judaism, have historically been the primary sources condemning homosexuality in the world. The first recorded law against homosexuality is found in Leviticus, and it prescribes the death penalty for homosexual acts between men. Today some major denominations within these religions have accepted homosexuality, arguing that it was originally intended as a means of distinguishing between Judaism and pagan faiths, and is thus no longer relevant.


=Christianity=
Main articles: Homosexuality and Christianity: History and Homosexuality and Christianity
The attitude of Early Christians toward homosexuality has been much debated. One side has cited denunciations of sodomy in the writings of the era, such as in the Didache and in the writings of Saint Justin Martyr, Clement of Alexandria, Tertullian, St. Cyprian, Eusebius, St. Basil the Great, St. John Chrysostom, St. Augustine, and in doctrinal sources such as the "Apostolic Constitutions" - for example, Eusebius of Caesarea's statement which condemns "the union of women with women and men with men". Others claim that passages have been mistranslated or they do not refer to homosexuality. Some Christians maintain that the Bible, principally in Leviticus 18 and Romans 1, denounces homosexual activity as a sin, in the eyes of God an "abomination" — a term used to describe a wide range of offenses, from incest and bestiality (sex with animals) to the eating of prohibited foods.


Among the prominent Christian figures known to have had same-sex relationships, Richard I of England had a relationship with King Philip II of France, Ralph Archbishop of Tours had his lover John installed as bishop of Orleans with agreement of both the King of France and Pope Urban II, and a number of popes and cardinals, especially during the Renaissance, also shared the popular tastes for handsome youths, so prevalent at the time in northern Italy.


Other Christians of the time were critical of homosexuality. St. Thomas Aquinas denounced sodomy as second only to bestiality (sex with animals) as the worst of all sexual sins, and St. Hildegard's book "Scivias", which was officially approved by Pope Eugenius III, related visions in which same-sex relations are condemned as "perverted forms".



=Islam=
Main articles: Homosexuality and Islam and Pederasty
Islamic teachings (in the hadith tradition) presume same-sex attraction, extoll abstention and (in the Qur'an) condemn consummation. In concordance with those creeds, in Islamic countries, male desire for attractive youths is widely expected and condoned as a human characteristic. However, it is thought that restraint from either acting on, or revealing, this desire is rewarded with an afterlife in paradise, where one is attended by perpetually young virgin lovers, women and men, houri and ghilman. (Al-Waqia 56.37, Qur’an) Homosexual intercourse itself has been interpreted to be a form of lust and a violation of the Qur'an. Thus, while homosexuality as an attraction is not against the Sharia (Islamic law, which governs the physical actions, rather than the inner thoughts and feelings), the physical action of same-sex intercourse is punishable under the Sharia.


Same-sex relations between adult males are segregated in a manner analogous to the segregation between the sexes. Thus, the passive role is generally taken on by an underclass of males, often transvestite or transgender who routinely would be entertainers by profession and who would be both despised for their submissive sexual role and admired for their skills. In earlier years these would have had their start through the traditional baccha or kocek roles. The active role is played by men who do not self-identify as homosexual, who typically conform to societal expectation to marry and have children and view their homosexual adventures as further confirmation of their masculinity. While this construction reflects the way Muslim men generally represent the culture to themselves, actual practices may vary a great deal.


The discourse on homosexuality in Islam is primarily concerned with activities between men. Relations between women, if at all problematized, are treated akin to adultery, and al-Tabari records an execution of a harem couple under caliph al-Hadi.


Historically, and with exceptions, punishment for male same-sex relations has been less severe compared to its Abrahamic counterparts: Judaism and Christianity. The Qur'an states that if a person commits the sin they can repent and save their life. Early Islamic cultures, especially ones where homosexuality was entrenched into their culture such as the Babylonians, Egyptians, Canaanites and as some claim, by exposure to Hellenistic culture, were renowned for their lenient attitudes towards homosexuality. They reconciled their new religion using a hadith, a collection of quotations ascribed to Muhammad, the founder of Islam "He who loves and remains chaste and conceals his secret and dies, dies a martyr". However, later hadiths are harsher: "When a man mounts another man, the throne of God shakes... Kill the one that is doing it and also kill the one that it is being done to." Both ancient and modern fundamentalists have interpreted these injunctions literally, with resulting loss of life.


The result is a religion that allows love between those of the same gender as long as they do not have sexual intercourse. Ibn Hazm, Ibn Daud, Al-Mutamid, Abu Nuwas, and many others used this edict to write extensively and openly of love between men while proclaiming to be chaste. Furthermore, in order for the transgression to be proven, at least four men or eight women must bear witness against the accused, thus making it very difficult to persecute those who do not remain celibate in the privacy of their homes.


The teachings of Islam have themselves been used to justify love and sexual expression between males. In particular, those who argue for the validity of male same-sex love point out that Allah has repeatedly indicated that the male is worth twice as much as the female, as reflected in matters of intrinsic worth, inheritance, and bearing witness (Qur'an, iv. 38; Qur'an, ii. 282; Qur'an, iv. 175), and thus, by a process of induction, they must be worthier objects of desire as well. Debate Between the Wise Woman and the Sage


=Judaism=
Main article: Homosexuality and Judaism
The historically prevalent view in Jewish law has been that homosexual intercourse by men and women was sinful, arguing that it was forbidden by the Torah. For men this position is based on an interpretation of Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13, that homosexual intercourse between men is considered on the same level as idolatry, requiring death, and for women it is based on Leviticus 18:2-3, where the Israelites are commanded not to follow the ways of the Egyptians or Canaanites. However, since the late twentieth century this has been a subject of contention between various Jewish groups, and has led to both debate and division among modern Jews.


Reform Judaism argues that homosexuality is a natural attraction, and that the prohibition in the Torah was addressing pagan religious rituals, specifically Egyptian and Canaanite fertility cults and temple prostitution. The official position of Conservative Judaism, formulated in 1992, is that homosexual intercourse is sinful, and the movement does not ordain homosexuals as rabbis or cantors, but insists that homosexual Jews should be welcomed within the movement. In 2003 the Committee on Jewish Law and Standards of the Rabbinical Assembly recognized divisions within the movement, and promised to reevaluate the position in the near future. Orthodox Judaism views homosexuality as sinful, but halakhic decisors have differed on the causes (and thus severity) of the sin, and on how one should interact with gay Jews. Currently same-sex marriages are forbidden in Orthodox and Conservative Judaism, but Reform and Reconstructionist Judaism allow them.


Buddhism
Main article: Homosexuality and Buddhism
Buddhism is traditionally neutral in its treatment of homosexuality, though different schools hold different attitudes, depending largely on whether they train the mind by reducing desires or by using the energy of desire to effect awakening experiences. It is common to see condemnation of homosexuality by Buddhists in societies within Asia largely influenced by Abrahamic religions. However, this is a recent development and has no scriptural basis. Prior to colonization , homosexuality was no less privileged than other forms of love. In Japan, the practice was "invented" by the Bodhisattva Manjusri of wisdom and the sage Kukai, while in China it is attributed to the Yellow Emperor, the father of China. Indian, Tibetan, Chinese, Southeast Asian and Japanese cultures, where Buddhism was or remains one of the chief religions, have been historically unconcerned with the gender of sexual activity or the object of desire.


Hinduism
Main article: Homosexuality and Hinduism
The Indian Kama Sutra written in the third century c. e. contains passages describing hijras performing oral sex to men with tips to maximize pleasure. Prior to British colonization of India hijras were not the only homosexual activity, many engaged in a form of pederasty which was openly practiced by Muslims and Sikhs in the north while being overlooked in the south by Hindus. The terms gand-mara (anus beater), gando (ass-taker) and ganga ("anuser") were coined during this time period. During British control Hinduism became markedly antagonistic to homosexuality.


In Hinduism many divinities are androgynous with some changing sex to participate in homoerotic behavior.


Paganism
Main articles: Pederasty, Mythology of same-sex love
In Greco-Roman religion same-sex love was integrated in sacred texts and rituals, understandable since most followers were open to romantic engagements with either sex. Certain surviving myths depict homosexual bonds (see History), sanctified by divinities modeling such relationships. See Zeus and Ganymede as an example.


The Sumerian religion also held homosexuality sacred. It also was incorporated into various New World religions, such as the Aztec. It is thought to have been common in shamanic practice.


Divinities who engaged in same-sex love
Main article: Mythology of same-sex love


Gilgamesh, Enkidu, Poseidon, Pelops, Zeus, Ganymede, Laius, Chrysippus, Iphis, Ianthe, Heracles, Iolaus, Hylas, Abderus, Apollo, Orpheus, Hyacinthus, Cyparisus, Pan, Daphnis, Achilles, Patroclus, Narcissus, Ameinias, Xochipilli


Polemic
Main article: Anti-gay slogan
Same-sex love practices have been the subject of a continuing debate dating back at least to Classical Greece. In antiquity, and in countries not under the sway of Abrahamic beliefs, the debates usually took the form of debating which love is best, the love of women or the love of boys, unlike more recent discussions which frame the question in terms of "right" and "wrong."


Each camp has made use of a relatively circumscribed arsenal of arguments, some of which have not changed greatly over the past two and a half thousand years. Recent advances in sociological studies and other discourse such as queer theory have brought a measure of scientific rigor to what had been mostly a philosophical debate.


Con


"Same-sex love is against nature" This charge dates back to Classical Greece, where it was first articulated by Plato in his "Laws."
"It is condemned by God." Expressed by early Christian exegetes (claimed to be the moral of the Sodom and Gomorrah story), and by Muhammad in the Qur'an.
"It leads to plagues and natural disasters." Advanced by Christian authorities from late Antiquity through the Renaissance.
"It is abuse of the young." Encountered in "Erotes," a dialogue of the early Christian era by "Lucian."
"It is a dissipation of one's vital force." Also in Lucian.
Pro


"It is commonplace in nature." Based on zoologists' observations of many different species (see Bagemihl in References).
"Suppressing it alters the balance of nature." A Melanesian belief documented by Bagemihl.
"It foments close friendships and independent thinking." Also in Lucian
"The male form is superior to the female form." Medieval Arabic text included in the Arabian Nights (The Debate Between the Wise Woman and the Sage).
History
Main articles: History of sexuality & History of the Gay Community
Sexual customs vary greatly over time, and those shifts, as well as the orientation of particular pre-modern figures are the subject of ongoing study. However, modern Western gay culture as it is currently understood is largely a product of 19th century psychology as well as the years of post-Stonewall gay liberation. It is generally not applicable as a standard when investigating same-gender sex and people's views in past ages.It may be accepted, for example, that the sex lives of historical figures such as Alexander the Great, Hadrian, Virgil, Leonardo da Vinci, Michelangelo, Plato, Christopher Marlowe (who coined the term 'quean') and William Shakespeare included or were centred upon relationships with people of their own gender. Terms such as "gay" or "bisexual" might be applied to them in that sense. But many regard this as risking the anachronistic introduction of a modern social construction of sexuality sub-culture that is foreign to their times. For example, their societies might have focused upon the sexual role one took in these encounters, namely active, passive, both, or neither, as a key social marker. This particular system of designation is currently the norm in many areas of Latin America.


It could be noted, on the other hand, that when evidence that a particular historical figure's sexuality pointed exclusively toward an attraction to people of an opposite gender describing them as having a heterosexual orientation rarely evokes such controversy. This tendency among Western historians, to view heterosexuality as an acceptable norm while regarding arguments that a particular historical figure may have had been gay controversial or requiring more evidence than a claim of opposite-sex attraction might warrant, is often attributed to homophobia on the part of historians and is referred to within queer studies as heteronormativity.


Africa
Though denied or ignored by early explorers, homosexual expression in native Africa was widespread and common, and took a variety of forms. Representative examples:


Anthropologists Murray and Roscoe report that women in Lesotho traditionally have enaged in socially sanctioned and celebrated "long term, loving and erotic relationships" named motsoalle.


E. E. Evans-Pritchard reported that Azande warriors (in the northern Congo) routinely married youths who functioned as temporary wives. The practice had died out in the early 20th century but was recounted to him by the elders.


Americas
In North American Native society, the most common form of same-sex sexuality seems to center around the figure of the two-spirit individual. Such persons seem to have been recognized by the majority of tribes, each of which had its particular term for the role. Typically the two-spirit individual was recognized early in life, was given a choice by the parents to follow the path, and if the child accepted the role then it was raised in the appropriate manner, learning the customs of the gender it had chosen. Two-spirit individuals were commonly shamans and were revered as having powers beyond those of ordinary shamans. Their sexual life would be with the ordinary tribe members of the opposite gender. Male two-spirit people were prized as wives because of their greater strength and ability to work. See Two-spirit
East Asia
In Asia same-sex love has been a central feature of everyday life since the dawn of history. Early western travelers were taken aback by its widespread acceptance and open display.
In China, known as the pleasures of the bitten peach, the cut sleeve, or The southern custom, same-sex relations have been recorded since at least 600 BCE. These euphemistic terms were used to describe behaviors, but not identities. The relationships were marked by differences in age and social position. However, the instances of same-sex affection and sexual interactions described in the Hong Lou Meng (Dream of the Red Chamber, or Story of the Stone) seem as familiar to observers in the present as do equivalent stories of romances between heterosexuals during the same period. For more information see Homosexuality in China.


In Japan, the practice, variously known as shudo or nanshoku, terms influenced by Chinese literature, has been documented for over one thousand years and was an integral part of Buddhist monastic life and the samurai tradition. This same-sex love culture gave rise to strong traditions of painting and literature documenting and celebrating such relationships. For more information see Homosexuality in Japan.


Similarly, Thailand had no concept of homosexuality until the late 20th century. Kathoey or ladyboys have been a feature of Thai society for many centuries. They were men who dressed as women. They were generally accepted by society without much question, although a family was often disappointed if one of their sons became a Kathoey. The teachings of Buddhism, dominant in Thai society was accepting of a third gender designation.


Europe
The earliest western documents (in the form of literary works, art objects, as well as mythographic materials) concerning same-sex relationships are derived from Ancient Greece, where same-sex relationships were a social institution variously constructed over time and from one city to another. (See Pederasty) The practice, a system of relationships between an adult male and an adolescent coming of age, was often valued for its pedagogic benefits and as a means of population control, and occasionally blamed for causing disorder. Plato praised its benefits in his early writings, but in his late works proposed its prohibition, laying out a strategy which uncannily predicts the path by which same-sex love was eventually driven underground. (See Philosophy of pederasty)
The Roman emperor Theodosius decreed a law, on August 6th, 390, condemning passive homosexuals to be burned at the stake. Justinian, towards the end of his reign, expanded the proscription to the active partner as well (in 558) warning that such conduct can lead to the destruction of cities through the "wrath of God." Notwithstanding these regulations, taxes on homosexual boy brothels continued to be collected until the end of the reign of Anastasius in 581. During the Renaissance, cities in northern Italy, Florence and Venice in particular, were renowned for their widespread practice of same-sex love, engaged in by a majority of the male population and constructed along the classical pattern of Greece and Rome (Ruggiero, 1985; Rocke, 1996). But even as the majority of the male population was engaging in same-sex relationships, the authorities, under the aegis of the Officers of the Night court, were prosecuting, fining and imprisoning a good portion of that population. The eclipse of this period of relative artistic and erotic freedom was precipitated by the rise to power of the moralizing monk Girolamo Savonarola. Throughout all of Europe, fierce conflicts, dating back to the early Middle Ages, raged between proponents and opponents of same sex love. In northern Europe the artistic discourse on sodomy was turned against its proponents by artists like Rembrandt who in his "Rape of Ganymede" no longer depicted Ganymede as a willing youth, but as a squalling baby attacked by a rapacious bird of prey.


Middle East and Central Asia
Among many Middle-Eastern Muslim cultures homosexual practices were widespread and public, and recent work in queer studies suggests that while their visibility has been much reduced, their frequency has not. The two most commonly documented forms were commercial sex with transgender males or males enacting transgender roles exemplified by the koceks and the bacchas, and Sufi spiritual practices in which the practitioner crossed over from the idealized chaste form of the practice to one in which the desire is consummated.
Around both forms a rich tradition of art and literature sprang up, constructing Middle Eastern homosexuality in ways analogous to the ancient tradition of male love in which Ganymede, cup-bearer to the gods, symbolized the ideal boyfriend. Muslim - often Sufi - poets in medieval Arab lands and in Persia wrote odes to the beautiful Christian wine boys who - they claimed - served them in the taverns and shared their beds at night. In many areas the practice survived into modern times (as documented by Richard Francis Burton, André Gide and many others).


In Central Asia, on the Silk Route, the two traditions of the east and the west met, and gave rise to a strong local culture of same-sex love. In the Turkic-speaking areas, one manifestation of this were the bacchá, adolescent or adolescent-seeming male entertainers and sex workers. In other areas male love continues to surface despite efforts to keep it quiet. After the American invasion of Afghanistan, Central Asian same-sex love customs in which adult men take on adolescent lovers, were widely reported.


Other forms are less well documented. It is reported that in the oasis of Siwa boy marriages were the norm until the middle of the twentieth century, a practice which was coupled with a minimum age for heterosexual marriage of forty for the men, a measure presumed to have been taken to avoid overpopulation. Finally, sexual relations between older and younger boys are said to be frequent in the Middle East as well as in the Maghreb.


The prevailing pattern of same-sex relationships in the temperate and sub-tropical zone stretching from Northern India to the Western Sahara is one in which the relationships were - and are - either gender-structured or age-structured, or both. In recent years, egalitarian relationships modelled on the western pattern have become more frequent, if still rare.


See Pederasty in Central Asia and the Middle East, Kocek, Baccha, Tellak


South Pacific
In many societies of Melanesia same-sex relationships are an integral part of the culture. In some tribes of Papua New Guinea, for example, it is considered a normal ritual responsibility for a boy to have a relationship as a part of his ascent into manhood. Many Melanesian societies, however, have become hostile towards same-sex relationships since the introduction of Christianity by European missionaries.


Modern Developments
In 1973, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Psychiatric Manual of Psychiatric Disorders (DSM) removed homosexuality as a mental disorder from the manual.
During the last few decades, in part due to their history of shared oppression, gays in the West have developed a shared culture, although not all gays participate in it, and many gay men and women specifically decline to do so. The various approaches to the question of what queer culture should be are exemplified by the gay pride and the gay shame movements. Gay pride aims at equality and social and economic integration. Opposition to this comes from the gay shame movement, which holds that being gay can lead to liberation from restrictive social constructs.


Shortly after World War II the gay community began to make advancements in civil rights throughout much of the Western World. With the advent of the AIDS outbreak, organizational structures of these groups became much more sophisticated. At the start of the 21st Century four countries had granted access to civil-marriages and many more countries; the majority of Europe had established similar legal arrangements. Gay men and women had risen to numerous posts of power within many governments that had only a few decades ago previously imprisoned or even in some cases exterminated them.


The overall trend of greater acceptance of gay men and women in the latter part of the 20th Century was not limited to secular institutions; it was also seen in many religious institutions. Reform Judaism, the largest branch of Judaism outside Israel had begun to facilitate religious weddings for gay adherents in their synagogues. The Anglican Communion, the world’s second largest Christian Church in terms of members had nearly fractured due to the Churches in the Western World ordaining gay clergy and blessing same-sex unions against the wishes of those in the developing world, where a morality first adopted in colonial times still predominates. (See Post-colonialism) Other Churches such as the Methodist Church had experienced trials of gay clergy who some claimed were a violation of religious principles resulting in mixed verdicts dependent on geography.


With the advent of the Internet, gay people find it easier to locate one another and organize. They can engage in cybersex while keeping their sexual orientation hidden or hide behind a facade such as Plushies, Yiff, and Furries.


Art and literature
Main article: Homoeroticism & Same-sex love (visual arts)One of the primary social manifestations of same-sex love has been through the medium of literature and art. The aspects of these expressions range across the gamut of the main artistic disciplines. Homoerotic sensibilities are at the foundation of art in the west, to the extent that those roots can be traced back to the ancient Greeks. Homer’s Iliad – one of the foundations of the Greco-Roman faith – was regarded to contain a homosexual relationship by many of its contemporaries.
The European tradition was continued throughout the ages in the works of William Shakespeare, Michelangelo, and Leonardo da Vinci. In Arab populations it was present in figures such as Abu Nuwas. The Tale of Genji –called the “world’s first real novel”, fostered this tradition in Asian societies.


Icons such as Madonna and Elton John have followed this tradition in modern times. Presently the Japanese anime subgenre, yaoi, commonly features the theme. Artistic nudes have prominently displayed lesbianism. Playwrights have penned popular works such as Angels In America. These sentiments have been pervaded in many movies. A popular television series exploited these perceptions with Queer Eye For The Straight Guy equating gay men with the ancient Greek Muses.


 

 
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Gay originally meant in English happy. In modern usage, the term is often applied interchangeably with homosexual, though there are important differences between the terms. While "homosexual" relates specifically to sexuality, the term "gay" is a political or social marker.

When people say they are gay, they are saying that they are open about their attraction to people of the same gender, not necessarily that they are sexually active with someone of the same gender, or with anyone at all for that matter. A person can be homosexual, but not be gay- terms such as closeted, on the down low, discreet, or bi-curious may apply in this situation. Similarly, a person can be gay, but not be actively homosexual- such is the case for some celibate individuals, such as monks, or for young people who have come out of the closet as gay for political reasons but are not yet ready to form a sexual relationship. Finally, the term "gay" can reasonably be applied to figures such as John Lennon, who were open about their attraction to people of the same gender even if they were entirely heterosexual.

To tie down the word to a specific cultural meaning might be to misrespresent a huge community of individuals who find themselves described by the word "gay". The term "gay", or "lesbian" for women, is preferred by many in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) community because it describes the overall "orientation" of the person and does not focus the definition only on sexual or physical terms, though there are possibly genetic and pheromonal precursors to all manifestations of sexuality and gender. The LGBT community represents the emotional, cultural, social and erotic lives of its members; a natural-born community without an innate cultural unity. The LGBT community has been, and still is, a community of struggle.

Aside from their long-term romantic and erotic relationships, gay and lesbian people establish same-sex friendships. They may choose to attend same-sex friendly social gatherings and church services where they feel more welcome. However, the majority of heterosexuals treat members of the LGBT community with kindness. There is a special term that has grown up alongside the term "gay"- the term "gay friendly". Gay friendly is a term for predominantly straight individuals and institutions who support political rights and social dignity for gay people.

The gay and lesbian community represents a social component of the global community that is underrepresented in the area of civil rights. The current struggle of the gay community has been largely brought about by globalization. In the United States, World War II brought together many closeted rural men from around the nation and exposed them to sophisticated attitudes in Europe. Upon returning home after the war, many of these men decided to band together in cities rather than return to their small towns. Fledgling communities would soon become political in the beginning of the gay rights movement. Today, many large cities have gay and lesbian community centers. The Human Rights Campaign advocates for LGBT people on a wide range of issues in the United States. There is an International Lesbian and Gay Association.

In parts of the World today, the LGBT community seeks marriage rights, a further extension of social globalization. Marriage becomes hugely important when lovers are not from the same country. Without marriage, or an equivalent right to immigrate, a couple or occasionally even family can be broken up based solely on the genders of the people involved.

The modern gay and lesbian community has a growing and complicated place in the American media. The community has been targeted by marketers who view LGBT people as an untapped source of discretionary income, but gays and lesbians are still often portrayed negatively in television, films, and other media. When Ellen DeGeneres came out of the closet on her popular sitcom, many sponsors, such as the Wendy's fast food chain, pulled their advertising. Gay people are frequently used as a symptom (or symbol) of social decadence by celebrity reverends and by organizations such as Focus on the Family. Many LGBT organizations exist to represent and defend the gay community. For example, the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation works with the media to help portray fair and accurate images of the gay community.


 

 
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Gay slang

Gay slang (sometimes gayspeak) refers to slang used predominantly among gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgendered people. (See also: Polari.)

Slang frequently arises from the need or desire of a particular subculture to create or maintain secrecy, from want of recognition and acceptance, or fear of prejudice, persecution, or exposure; or to describe situations, acts and things not common in the dominant culture (see also argot).

Assimilation and use of slang also gives individuals a feeling of belonging - necessary in the creation, maintenance or reinforcement of a subculture, its values, politics and sociology.

Many terms that originated as gay slang have become part of the popular lexicon. For example, the word drag, was popularized by Hubert Selby, Jr. in his book Last Exit to Brooklyn. "Drag" has been traced back by the Oxford English Dictionary (OED) to the late 19th Century.

Words and phrases



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A



A-gay
Short for "A-list gay"; an affluent, well-connected, upwardly mobile gay man or woman.
;Abercrombie bitch, Aberzombie, Abercrozombie

A gay male who dresses in Abercrombie & Fitch or similar fashions. Often pejoratively implies a lack of originality or groupthink.


Active
see Top
;Ambisextrous

Bisexual; occasionally ambisexual.


Aroma
Poppers, amyl nitrite.
;Assimilationist

A pejorative term describing LGBTs who attempt to blend into heterosexual society, usually by adopting standards and norms deemed to be mainstream or heterosexual, such as marriage, child-rearing, dress, military service, religion, etc.

B



Baby dyke
A young, inexperienced and/or boyish lesbian.
;Back room, backroom

A darkened room set aside for sex (sometimes group sex) in a gay bar, club, or bathhouse.


Bareback
Unprotected sex, especially anal sex.
;Basket

The bulge in a man's clothing caused by his penis and testicles. See also package.


Baths
Gay bathhouses or saunas (see Tubs).
;Bear

A hairy, often overweight, man, frequently with facial hair.


Beard
A spouse or significant other of the opposite sex, with whom the person wearing said "beard" is not actually involved, but is pretending to be involved with to feign heterosexuality: "his wife is just a beard."
;Beer Bust

A long-standing tradition in the gay bar community in which a bar will dedicate a portion of its operating hours, usually a Sunday afternoon, to let local charities and clubs raise money, by offering an all-you-can-drink price on draft beer. Food is usually served and the charity or club raising the money usually has a raffle in which they sell tickets for.


Betty Badge
The police. Other phrases include "Lilly Law" and "Our Lady of the Golden Brooch".
;Bi-curious

A person who has previously identified as exclusively attracted to members of one sex who wishes to "experiment" with people of the other.


Binder
A device used by many physically female trans people to flatten their chest and hide evidence of breasts. These range from the classic ace bandages, which are in fact among the less practical options, through commercially made binders designed to hide even quite large breasts.
;Bio-boy

Short for "biological boy." A term used to denote a non-transexual man, a man born biologically male. Considered problematic by some because of its emphasis on biological status as a determining factor of manhood.


Birthgender
The social gender role one is assigned at birth.
;Blanche

A term of endearment; see also Mary.


Body fascism
A pejorative term for an unwavering insistence on strict conformity to particular ideals of appearance (such as muscularity, slimness, amount of body hair, etc.). Reaction against it has been the birth of the Bear, Chub, and Gender Blender subcultures, among others. See also Fats and Fems
;Bona

A polari term meaning "good". This is one of the few polari terms that has survived its fall and remains popular in Britain and, as of late, America.


Bottom
The receptive partner in anal or other penetrative sex (see Bottom (sex)); a partner who receives stimulation in BDSM (see Bottom (BDSM)).
;Boy bar

A gay bar, particularly one for men only.


Boy toy
The reciprocal to a sugar daddy; the younger partner in a relationship with an older man. Suggests a primary interest in money, a good time, sex, experience, advice, and/or the desire to find a father figure.
;Breed

To have heterosexual sex; to reproduce.


also: To have unprotected anal sex with the intent of ejaculation inside the receptive participant, emulating heterosexual sex.


Breed To ejaculate inside the anus. See
Seed
;Breeder

Derogatory term for a heterosexual person.


Brownie Queen
A gay man who enjoys anal sex, especially as the receptive partner.
;Bug chaser

An HIV-negative individual who seeks to be infected with HIV, generally through unprotected receptive anal sex. See also gift.


Bull
A large (very muscular or overweight), dominant man who exhibits hypermasculinized traits in build, aggressiveness, and crudeness.
;Bulldagger, Bulldyke

A butch lesbian who dresses and behaves in a masculine fashion.


Buppie
A bi(sexual) yuppie. A portmanteau (or fusion) words of bi(sexual)+yuppie.
;Butch

A gay male or lesbian evidencing (or affecting) highly masculine traits.


Byke
A bisexual dyke.

C



Camp
Ironic, affected, flamboyant, florid, bitchy, frequently effeminate behaviour; putative, stereotypical gay behaviour (with or without effeminate connotations); ironically bitchy. Also camping, camping it up, campy.
;Castro clone: see Clone.

Catcher
The receptive partner in anal sex; the submissive partner. Contrast with pitcher.
;Chaser

a man who primarily is interested in overweight men. "chubby chaser"


Chicken
A young, teenage, boyish, or young-looking gay male; an underage boy.
;Chicken hawk

An older man who prefers younger men; occasionally: a paedophile.


Circuit party
One of several large parties for gay men held in various locations throughout North America each year (the circuit).
;Christina, Tina, Xtina

Predominately gay reference to methamphetamines (see also: Crystal and sex)


Chub
A positive term for an overweight man, also Chubby. see Chaser
;Circuit Queen

A gay man who attends the many of the annual circuit parties.


Cisgender
Someone who is not transgender. Lit., "on this side of gender," a person whose gender identity, expression, and role are socially considered appropriate for their sex. Coined in 1995 by Carl Buijs.
;Clone

Originally called the Castro Clone, this particular fashion spread far beyond the Castro district of the late 1970s and established an "out" gay look that was proudly gay, highly sexualized, subversively camp (for its time), yet ultimately conformist. The typical clone was a white gay man, with short hair and a mustache. The clone's sole attire consisted of tight faded blue jeans, a tight-fitting white t-shirt, construction boots, and a leather jacket.=http://www.squirrelgames.com/... href="http://www.squirrelgames.com/logos/plates/freddiem ercurywhole.jpg" target=_blankphoto Different manifestations of the Clone emerge as times and the culture change (see Bear), yet the original is still alive and well.


The closet
The figurative hiding place of gays and lesbians who are not open about their homosexuality.
;Closet case, closet-case

A gay person who is not "out of the closet".


Coming out (of the closet)
Publicly revealing one's homosexuality.
;Cottage

(British English) A public lavatory where sexual activity takes place. See also tearoom.


Cottaging
(British English) Seeking or having sex in public lavatories.
;Cruise

to look for a sex partner in areas known for this activity; to stare at someone with the intention of attracting his or her attention; to flirt.


Crystal dick
Methamphetamine-related erectile dysfunction.
;Cub

A younger bear.


Cut
Circumcised.

D



Daddy
A positive term for an older man. Typically a daddy is larger, bearish, and takes a fatherly role in a relationship. Also used by some lesbians, especially those in "daddy/boy" relationships between two butches.
;Denial, in denial

Being unable or unwilling to admit one's homosexuality or bisexuality.


Denialist
Someone who believes that HIV does not cause AIDS. Denialists refer to themselves as AIDS Dissidents.
;Dicklet

Slang used by some transmen to refer to their genitals, especially when testosterone therapy has caused the clitoris to enlarge and begin to resemble a tiny penis.


Dock
The act of placing the foreskin of an uncircumcised male over the (usually circumcised) glans penis of another as a form of sexual pleasure, often up to and including ejaculation.
;Do-Me Queen

A pushy bottom; someone who expects to be sexually satisfied without reciprocation; a generally selfish or self-absorbed person.


Down-Low
A term once used exclusively by the gay and bisexual black community to refer to working-class men who live as straight men, often who are married, and who secretly have affairs or one night stands with other men. The closest equivalent is the older phrase rough trade.
;Drag

Literally women's clothing worn my men, the term drag can refer to any clothing worn for effect, e.g. Leather Drag, Business Drag, Preppy Drag


Drilling
Rough anal sex.
;Dyke

Derogatory term for a gay woman; the lesbian equivalent of faggot.


Dyke hag
Someone who hangs around many gay or bi women.
;Dyke tyke

A man who prefers the company of lesbians; the male best friend of a lesbian woman (a rarely-used term, analogous but the opposite of fag hag). Usually pejorative.


Dykes on Bikes, Dykes on Bykes
The women's motorcycle contingent that usually leads a pride parade. Other contingents have popped up humorously as a result, calling themselves Dykes on Real Bykes (bicycles) and Mikes on Bikes (men on motorcycles or bicycles).
;Dykon

A gay icon that appeals primarily to lesbians.


Drop a hair pin
(as in "He just dropped a hair pin") To accidentally reveal one's homosexuality through one's actions or mannerisms.

E




English
Caning for sexual pleasure.
;Eurofag

A younger, trendy Continental European male (cf: Eurotrash).


Ex-gay
A former lesbian or gay man who professes to be "cleansed" of their homosexuality, often due to a religious (typically evangelical Christian) conversion.

F



F2M, FTM
A transgender or transsexual person who is transitioning or has transitioned from female to male. See also Transman
;Faerie

One who practices a free-form neo-pagan religion particularly identified with gay men, exemplified by a group known as the Radical Faeiries.


Fag
Short for faggot, used as a term of endearment between some queer people and their friends (cf: nigger).
;Fag hag

A woman who prefers the company of gay men; the female best friend of a gay man (sometimes considered pejorative).


Fag Stag
A heterosexual man who prefers the company of gay men; the male counterpart to the fag hag.
;Family

(as in "Do you think he's family?") Gay.


Fats and Fems
A derogatory phrase which lumps together all gay men who do not fit into a strict body and behavioral paradigm. See also Body fascism.
;Fay, fey

Effeminate (usually of a gay man).


Felching
The act of analingus with the intent of sucking the semen out of a person's anus, immediately after a man has ejaculated into that person's rectum.
;Fem, femme

Feminine; effeminate (usually of a lesbian or bisexual woman).


Female nouns and pronouns
Sometimes used by gay men and transgendered individuals when referring to one another, derisively or affectionately.
;Fence Sitter

(usually pejorative) a bisexual person. The Fence Sitter's Ball is an annual party for bisexuals in the San Francisco Bay Area.


Fierce
Great, awesome, fabulous.
;Fish

Derogatory word for a woman.


Flame
To behave in an extremely effeminate, campy manner. Also Flamer, Flaming
;Friend of Dorothy

Gay. In The Wizard of Oz, Judy Garland played Dorothy; Garland is said to have preferred gay males as friends.


Fruit fly
A heterosexual who frequents gay bars (cf: barfly). Occasionally replaces fag hag.
;Fuck buddy

Someone with whom one has sex but with whom one is not involved in a relationship.


Fur
Body hair

G



Gaily Forward
Straight ahead, as in, "Take a left and then go gaily forward." Used humorously to prevent uttering the word "straight."
;GAM

Abbreviation for Gay Asian Male.


Gaydar
The supposed ability to detect another person's homosexuality by just observing. Also Doppler Gaydar (from the character Jack in the TV show Will & Grace). There is also a dating website of the same name.
;Gaybourhood, gayborhood

A gay neighbourhood


Gaytino
A Gay latino
;Gaytina

A gay latina


Gaysian
A Gay Asian
;Gapa

A gay Hapa (Half white and half Asian-Pacific Islander or Philippino)


Gayspeak
Gay slang; Polari.
;Gay-for-Pay

Straight actors who perform in gay pornographic movies or straight men who work as go-go dancers, strippers in gay clubs, or prostitutes.


Gay-Until-Graduation, GUG
Sarcastic phrase to refer to individuals who have exclusive same-sex relationships in college, but who form heterosexual partnerships after graduating.
;Gayteenth and Castro

(Eigtheenth and Castro) world-famous intersection in the heart of San Francisco's Castro District.


GBM
Abbreviation for Gay Black Male.
;Gender Identity The sex that one identifies with, not necisarily one's birthgender.

Genderqueer
Someone with an ambigious gender identity
;Genetic Girl, or GG

A woman who is chromosomally XX; ie, a non-trans woman. Considered problematic by some because of its emphasis on genetic status as a defining factor in womanhood.


Gift
an STD, usually HIV. Used by a particular subset of barebackers who actively seek HIV infection. See also bug chaser.
;Gift giver

someone who passes on an STD, usually HIV. See also bug chaser.


GLBT
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered. This sequence is predominant on the American East Coast, whereas LGBT is predominant on the West Coast.
;The Glass Coffin

Derogatively refers to the Twin Peaks bar in San Francisco, the first gay bar in the country which had full, open windows for anyone to see in. This bar is mainly frequented by older men.


GLM Gay Latino man ;Glory hole
A hole, in a wall, partition or similar, through which the penis is inserted for oral or anal sex. Often found in a public lavatory.
;GM

Gay Male.


Greek
Anal sex.
;Guppie

A gay yuppie. A portmanteau (or fusion) of "gay" and "yuppie".


GWM
Personals ad abbreviation for Gay White Male.
;Gym Bunny, Gym Queen, Gym Mouse, Gymbot

A gay man who works out in a gym, primarily to enhance his physical appeal to other gay men. Usually pejorative.

H



Handballing
Fisting.
;Hasbian

A woman who has identified as a lesbian in the past but now identifies at heterosexual. Popularized by the Showtime TV Series The L Word.


Het, Hetero
Heterosexual.
;Heteroflexible

Bisexual with a heterosexual dominance. See also bicurious


Homocon
A conservative, right-wing lesbian or gay. Some famous homocons are Andrew Sullivan, Dale Carpenter, and Norah Vincent.
;Homo-Hop, Homocore, Queercore, Queer Punk

Music genres with musicians who identify as queer, and who play to predominantly queer audiences.


Homopia
Inability to discern the sexual orientation of others; by word play on myopia. See also Gaydar
;Homothug

A gay man who associates with Hip-hop, Rap, or a gangster lifestyle.


Hung
Having a large penis; being "well endowed." Often well hung.
;Hunk

see stud


Husbear
One of two gay men who identify as "bears" and who are in a committed relationship.

I



Imperial Court System
A system that raises money for charity. Each year an Emperor and Empress are chosen as the Court's representatives. The Emperor is often a man from the leather community (but is sometimes a woman) and the Empress is usually a drag queen. The Emperor and Empress act as goodwill ambassadors, hosting charity events and raising money for community causes. There are currently over seventy courts in the United States and Canada.
;Intergender

someone whose gender identity is neither unambiguously male or female.


Intersex
someone born with genitalia not unambiguously either male or female.

J




J/O buddy
A partner, usually non-exclusive, with whom one engages in mutual masturbation but not a love relationship and generally not other forms of sex.
;Jock An athletic, muscular man. See stud.

Jockey, Jocker
The insertive partner in the act of anal sex(or oral)anal sex. See also Top (sex)
;Judy

A woman or gay man prone to mood swings ("Moody Judy"); by reference to gay icon Judy Garland.

K



Kept Man
An attractive, typically younger male who financially depends on an older male, providing friendship, sexual favors, and other personal services in return. See also Sugar Daddy
;Kinky

Very varied, explorative, wild sex.


Kink
Having a kinky quality; a fetish, an unusual sexual proclivity.

L




Label queen
a gay man who prefers designer clothing. Often pejorative.
;Leatherman, Leather man

a gay man who is part of the leather scene.


Leather queen
a gay man, often effeminate, who is into the leather scene; a gay man who is attracted to or fetishizes leathermen (sometimes pejorative).
;Leather Scene

A once substantial presence in the gay community, this subculture consists of individuals into uniforms, leather, denim, motorcycles and often Sado-Masochism. The pinnacle of the leather scene is the annual Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco, where hundreds of thousands of enthusiasts gather to play and intermingle.


Lesbigay, LesBiGay
Abbreviation for Lesbian, Bisexual and Gay.
;Lesploitation

The use of lesbian imagery or themes in advertising or popular media to titilate heterosexual males.


Limp wrist
An effeminate gay male; a gay male; said of gay males; an effeminate heterosexual male; hence: limp-wristed. Usually pejorative. Also the name of an openly, all-gay hardcore punk band.
;Lincoln Logs

The Log Cabin Republicans, a gay Republican group. Pejorative.


Lipstick lesbian
A feminine lesbian.
;Lover

One member of a same-sex couple in a long-term relationship. Currently partner is often the preferred term. Terming someone one's partner or lover typically implies a greater degree of commitment or longevity of the relationship than boyfriend or girlfriend.


Luppie
A lesbian yuppie.

M



M2F, MTF
A transgender or transsexual person who is transitioning or has transitioned from male to female. See also Transwoman
;M2M

Male to male (sex)


MtM
Male-to-Male, term used by some transexual men who object to the term "ftm" or "Female-to-Male" on the grounds that they never identified as female and see themselves as men with a particular physical condition rather than as females who "changed" to male.
;Macho Like Morrissey

Flaunting one's manliness publicly whilst keeping private one's homosexuality or bisexuality, in reference to singer Morrissey.


Mangina
The anus of a gay man who bottoms in anal sex; i.e., the male counterpart to a female's vagina.
;Mantique

A term sometimes used to refer to an attractive gay man over the age of 50. (from "man" and "antique").


Mary
An effeminate gay man; a term of endearment (often used in a similar way to fag). See also Blanche.
;Meat

Penis.


Metrosexual
An urban heterosexual male with a strong, stereotypically gay aesthetic as to appearance and lifestyle.
;Mince

To walk (usually affectedly) in short steps in the manner of an effeminate gay male; (British 1950's journalist's comments about Liberace, a middle to late C20th US entertainer) :"...deadly, winking, sniggering, snuggling, chromium-plated, scent-impregnated, luminous, quivering, giggling, fruit-flavored, mincing, ice-covered heap of mother-love". Usually pejorative. Derived from Polari and no longer confined solely to gay usage.


Muscle Mary
A gay man who works out in a gym (see Gym Bunny, Gym Queen); a muscular yet effeminate gay man. Usually pejorative.
;Muscle queen

A gay man who prefers muscular men, gay or straight. Often pejorative.

N



Natural
Uncut; unprotected sex.
;Neg

HIV-negative.


Nelly, nelly queen
An effeminate gay man.
;Nelly Name

Identifying oneself by a female name. Once used widely by non-transgendered gay men, now mostly used by drag queens and transgenders.


Net boy, man Someone who meets dates and/or sexual partner exclusivly (or predominatly) via the Internet. ;No-ho, no-op
No hormones, no operations. A transgender or transexual person who does not plan on going on hormonal therapy or getting any surgery.
;Non-op

A transgender or transexual person who does not plan on having surgery.

O



Oopsy-la
(Imitative) see camp. (Originally coined, but with no apparent gay connotation) by British politician, Government Minister, Privy Counsellor and historian, the Rt. Hon. Alan Clark MP =http://politics.guardian.co.u...,1441,563455,00.html href="http://politics.guardian.co.uk/politicsobituaries/sto ry/0,1441,563455,00.html" target=_blankhttp://politics.guardian.co.uk/politicsobituaries/sto ry/0" title="http://politics.guardian.co.uk/politicsobituaries/sto ry/0" target="_blank"http://politics.guardian.co.u...,1441,563455,00.htmlin his "Diaries"). Obtained currency in British gay argot latterly; i.e.: "Mark is soooo oopsy-la he should trade his trousers for a frock and be done with the pretence".
;Otter

A gay or bisexual man who meets the description of a bear, except being of lean or average build.


Our Church
(as in "I think she goes to our church") Gay. This expression predates the MCC and other queer-friendly religious organizations.
;Out (of the closet)

Originally, a person who acknowledges, embraces, and projects their comfort in being a homosexual. The term is now used by the dominant culture as a non-gay specific phrase to mean anyone who is open about a once hidden feeling or idea.


To out
To publicly disclose another person's homosexuality, usually against their will or without their knowledge.

P



Package
The bulge in a man's clothing caused by his penis and testicles. See also Basket.
;Packer

An artificial flaccid penis, home made or purchased, used by many physically female transgender people to create an appropriate bulge in their pants.


Pack-n-Play
An artificial penis designed to serve as a packer while still being firm enough to be used for sexual penetration.
;Passing

Appearing correctly or convincingly as something, generally a member of a minority attempting to be seen in public as being part of the dominant group to avoid harassment or mistreatment; for example, a gay man can "pass" as heterosexual or a transwoman can "pass" as a cisgendered woman. Derived from older usage outside the queer community, when some members of disadvantaged racial or ethnic groups would attempt to "pass" as white to avoid stigma.


Party bottom
A (usully submissive) man who desires to fellate and/or be penetrated by a large group of men all at one time, usually under the influence of hard drugs. See party and play, bottom.
;Passive

see bottom


Party and play, PnP
Used in personal ads and online chat rooms to indicate an interest for casual sex that includes hard drugs such as methamphetamine or ecstasy. Often found in its abbreviated form.
;Pig

A person, usually a gay male, with very few sexual inhibitions.


Pink money
The disposable income or overall financial clout of the gay community.
;Pink Saturday

The day before the Pride Parade in which a host of activities occur, most notably the Dyke March.


Pisser
A device, home made or purchased, to allow a physically female person to urinate standing up.
;Pitcher

the insertive partner in anal sex; the dominant partner. Contrast with catcher.


PLU
Acronym meaning "People Like Us". Refers to other gay people.
;Pocket gay

A gay man of small physical stature.


Polari
British gay argot or slang, in currency especially prior to the legalisation of male homosexuality in the UK in 1967. Though various Polari words have entered the common lexicon, the language is largely obsolete.
;Pos, poz

HIV-positive.


Potato queen
coined as the opposite of rice queen: an Asian man who prefers white men (sometimes considered pejorative).
;Pre-Op

A transsexual person who has not had surgery but intends to eventually. May refer specifically to genital surgery, or may be used in reference to other surgical options (e.g., a mastectomy and chest reconstruction).


Pride
Gay pride. Also: the events that surround the "Pride Parade" (ie., "What are you doing for Pride?"), which in days past was called the Gay Freedom Day parade. The word "pride" has also been adapted for products marketed to the gay community ("pride rings", "pride wear", "pride credit cards", etcetera).
;Punchfisting

Fisting, but with a fist instead of with the fingers streched outwards.

Q



Queen
An effeminate gay man; a drag queen. Also used as a suffix in compound nouns such as "leather queen" or "size queen" to indicate an (often extreme) prediliction for or attraction to something, or in compounds such as "drama queen" to indicate a marked tendency. Also: Quean, which has older linguistic roots and provenance. See also camp.
;Queen's Tank

In many American jails, a section of the jail where gay men, trannies, and hustlers are segregated from the general population.


Queer
Once, and in many parts still, a derogatory term for anyone perceived as "not straight"; this word has been reclaimed by the modern LGBT community as a self-describing blanket term, meant to be as inclusive as possible while theories and identities within the developing community shift and emerge. Many people in the LGBT community still find this an offensive word, with younger, urban, and/or progressive LGBTs generally accepting it, and older, rural, and/or conservative LGBTs not. The use of the word "queer" is also frowned upon by LGBTs who come from more religious cultures. Even further, the term itself, as a method of inclusivity, is opposed by some who dislike or are uncomfortable with being associated with other identities/persons included under the term. For example, some gay men dislike it because it associates them with drag queens, while some African-Americans believe it is Caucasian-centric.
;Queer Spawn

Term used to refer to the growing population of children raised in queer households. The first large population of Queer Spawn children began with the Lesbian Baby Boom of the 80's, and this first generation is now reaching adulthood. Most Queer Spawn children are heterosexual themselves, but are part of the Queer community through their families.

R



Radaring
When a stranger addresses a Trans person whose gender they do not know, and awkwardly stutters "sir-ma'am-sir." A reference to Radar O'Reily from the television show M*A*S*H, who would respond to female officers and specifically Major Hoolihan with "Yes sir, ma'am, sir!"
;Raw

Unprotected sex, especially anal sex. See also: Bareback


Rent, rent boy
A male prostitute (i.e., "working to pay the rent" or a boy for rent).
;Rice queen

a non-Asian man who prefers Asians (sometimes considered pejorative). See also potato queen.


Rimming
Licking the anus of a sex partner.
;Rough Trade

Before the common use of "down-low", this referred to working-class straight men who had secret sexual rendezvous with gay men, often in public settings.

S



S&M
Sado-Masochism. Also (of a gay bar): "Stand and Model," suggesting a tendency for patrons to be aloof and egotistical.
;Santorum

"The frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex." See Savage Love.


Scene queen
A gay man who loves to "make the scene": go to bars, clubs, and parties.
;The Scene

A meeting place for gay people in a social sense; the gay club circuit; the gay pubs, clubs, bars, cafes and so on in a particular location.


Seed For a man to ejaculate inside another, especially anally. see barebacking ;Seeker
A man who seeks infection with an STD (usually HIV). See also gift giver and bugchaser.
;Shebrew

A fusion of Hebrew, in referance to the Jewish langauge and She, in referance to women, and in this case, gay. Therefore meaning, a Jewish lesbian.


Silence=Death, Silence Equals Death
Galvanizing phrase, originating in the mid-1980s, by the radical AIDS activist group, ACT-UP, to bring attention to the AIDS epidemic.
;Size queen

a man who prefers large penises.


Sister
a term of endearment between gay men and drag queens. See also Blanche, Mary.
;The Sisters

Refers to the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, an international group of drag queen "nuns" who raise money for charity.


Smooth
Hairless; often used to refer to a gay man lacking chest hair.
;Stealth

Transexual equivalent of the closet. To be secretive about one's trans status and history after completing transitioning to live socially as one's preferred gender.


Straight
Heterosexual.
;Straight-acting

A gay man who passes as a stereotypical straight man; often used in personal ads.


Stud
A gay male considered by his peers to be extremely attractive physically; a promiscuous gay man; a butch lesbian, especially one who is promiscuous.
;Sugar daddy

An older, affluent male whose personal and sexual relationship to a younger male (boy toy) is purchased. See also kept man.


Sweater Queen
1950's slang for an effeminate, well-to-do gay man obsessed with conventional looks and a conservative social scene. (from the movie Boys in the Band)
;Switch

Someone who is both a bottom and a top. See also Versatile

T



T
Abbreviation of "Testosterone," common among transmen. To begin testosterone therapy is to "Go on T."
;Tearoom

(US English) A public lavatory where sexual activity takes place. See also cottage.


Teabagging
Popularized by a John Waters movie. Can refer to a go-go dancer placing his scrotum on the forehead of a bar patron (originally it was a practice practiced at the Bottoms up bar in Kings Cross, Sydney where the stripper would place his scrotum in the glass of the patron); also, placing the testicles into the mouth of a sex partner, usually from above, and often with a "dipping" motion.
;Trade

A heterosexual or bisexual male looking for oral sex (blow job).


Transdyke
A lesbian transwoman.
;Transgender

An all-encompassing term to refer to people who defy conventional gender norms. This includes pre-op and post-op transsexual, transvestite, two-spirit, drag queens, butch dykes, intersex, and gender variant persons. Sometimes shortened to Trans.


Transexual
Alternate spelling of transsexual, adopted by some Trans people to decrease the sexual emphasis of the word.
;Tranny, trannie

Transgender or transsexual person (considered offensive by some).


Tranny chaser
Someone, often a heterosexual male, who seeks exclusive relationships with pre-op or post-op transgender women.
;Trannyfag/Transfag

A gay transman.


Transman
A transexual man (ftm). Preferred by some transexual men over "ftm" because it emphasizes one's status as a man and avoids the image of being a female who "became" a man, while simultaneously recognizing one's trans status and history.
;Transwoman

A transexual woman (mtf). Preferred by some transexual women over "mtf" because it emphasizes one's status as a woman and avoids the image of being a male who "became" a woman, while simultaneously recognizing one's trans status and history.


Top
The insertive partner in anal or other penetrative sex (see Top (sex)); a partner who inflicts stimulation in BDSM (see top (BDSM)).
;Tourist

A (usually heterosexual) person who visits known gay areas just to "look".


Trick
A prostitute's customer (a John); a sex partner; a sexual act for money; to have sex
;Troll

To walk around looking for sex (cruise); an older, or physically unattractive man; a man in a bathhouse or cruising area who continues to make advances even when rebuffed.


Tuna
A pejorative word used by some U.S. gay men to refer to women.
;Twink, twinky, twinkie

A young or young-looking man, especially those who are slender, clean cut and without facial or chest hair.

U



UDC
"Universal dyke cut," a term referring to a hairstyle common among lesbians active in sports (similar to the mullet) with hair cut shorter on the front and sides and longer in the back.
;ber Dyke (also spelled Uber Dyke) A very butch lesbian (ber is a prefix meaning "overkly so" in German).

Uncut
(also UC) Uncircumcised.

V



Vagina business
Heterosexual sex; ("I'm not in the vagina